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Opening Your Eyes and then Opening Your Heart to the Plight of Others

Published 20/01/2016 by inspiringyourspirit

My Dear Friends,

I have been thinking a lot lately about my own life and what that means to me and the people around me. My wife shared two videos with me a couple of days ago, video footage of my wife and a dear friend of ours who spoke about my recent death experience and what it meant to them, to their feelings, how that day affected them and what I mean to them. This was a wonderful and very moving experience for me, to see and hear my wife say how devastating that event was for her, how she saw me die in front of her, how she saw the paramedic working on me in the ambulance, the shock of seeing my heart racing to the point of giving up its struggle and to hearing my words as I was brought back to the land of the living, then to hear her words, her feelings and her observations of me since that event, her worries, her concerns and her fear of loosing me again, then also to see and hear the words of our friend, to see her tears, to feel her heartbreak and the effects that that day brought to her. This was a truly humbling and eye opening visualisation for me, I knew my wife was hurting as I saw her tears but the true depths of her hurting was kept from me because she did not want me to worry! And the words of our friend, her heartfelt testimony of what I mean to her, how I brought her together with my wife, how I suggested she tried a form of yoga that she may like even though she herself is a very experienced yoga teacher and the spiritual awareness I hold for her, these words really touched my heart and made me think again about my life and the life of others around me.

I came across this video again today and although I have posted it before, I felt the need to post it again; because I / we, and all of humanity needs to check in with reality once in a while, for us all to open our eyes and our hearts to the plight of others and stand up and be counted, to actually do some good, to help someone in need, to give out and share our love, for Humanity, for Mother Earth and for all Beings

Namaste with Love

Always

Mark

 

 

Opening doors to their hearts, brought a wonderful change to this young mans Life!

Published 06/07/2015 by inspiringyourspirit

My Dear Friends,

I came across this wonderful video story of a young mans life of torment, he suffered bullying at his middle school after the death of his father, his life was in turmoil and he was in so much pain from endless bouts of mental and physical cruelty.

But one day Josh did something different, he opened a door and became the ‘Doorman’……Please watch this short video story of Josh’s life and I doubt you will be able to keep tears from your eyes.

‘Way to go Josh’…..You are a inspiration to the world 🙂

Namaste with Love

Always

Mark

Great Messages to the World from our Children!

Published 07/11/2013 by inspiringyourspirit

If you as an adult could go back in time right now, back to when you were a child of between the ages of 5 to 12 years old, and have the ability to talk to your modern day self and to the world, what would say?

Please watch this short video and take a look at the images below before you put pen to paper. (You can click on any image to see the full picture and read all the words)

Namaste my dear friends
With Love
Always
Mark

To speak…easy or not?….Tears will Flow without a doubt!

Published 06/11/2013 by inspiringyourspirit

My Dear Friends,

I seem to be on a roll with video’s these past few days and I came across this tear jerking video of a young boy in the UK who was bullied at school because of his speech impediment. Through the care and patience of his teacher and his own determination improve his speah there was a breakthrough, a wonderful story that just shows us that we can and do make differences to other peoples lives, we just need to DO IT!…..This brave young man fought back, not through violence but through his own courage and determination and through the love in his heart.

May God bless him and all the teachers in our world that today and everyday make a difference!

Namaste with Love

Mark

 

 

 

To this Day

Published 22/05/2013 by inspiringyourspirit

A fantastic video

Adult Bullying: What to look out for.

Published 09/03/2013 by inspiringyourspirit

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You may not hear a lot about adult bullying, but it is a problem. Read this article to learn more about different types of adult bullies and get some ideas on how to deal with an adult bully. Adult bullying is a serious problem and may require legal action.

One would think that as people mature and progress through life, that they would stop behaviors of their youth. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Sadly, adults can be bullies, just as children and teenagers can be bullies. While adults are more likely to use verbal bullying as opposed to physical bullying, the fact of the matter is that adult bullying exists. The goal of an adult bully is to gain power over another person, and make himself or herself the dominant adult. They try to humiliate victims, and “show them who is boss.”

There are several different types of adult bullies, and it helps to know how they operate:

Narcissistic Adult Bully: This type of adult bully is self-centered and does not share empathy with others. Additionally, there is little anxiety about consequences. He or she seems to feel good about him or herself, but in reality has a brittle narcissism that requires putting others down.
Impulsive Adult Bully: Adult bullies in this category are more spontaneous and plan their bullying out less. Even if consequences are likely, this adult bully has a hard time restraining his or her behavior. In some cases, this type of bullying may be unintentional, resulting in periods of stress, or when the bully is actually upset or concerned about something unconnected with the victim.
Physical Bully: While adult bullying rarely turns to physical confrontation, there are, nonetheless, bullies that use physicality. In some cases, the adult bully may not actually physically harm the victim, but may use the threat of harm, or physical domination through looming. Additionally, a physical bully may damage or steal a victim’s property, rather than physically confronting the victim.
Verbal Adult Bully: Words can be quite damaging. Adult bullies who use this type of tactic may start rumors about the victim, or use sarcastic or demeaning language to dominate or humiliate another person. This subtle type of bullying also has the advantage – to the bully – of being difficult to document. However, the emotional and psychological impacts of verbal bullying can be felt quite keenly and can result in reduced job performance and even depression.
Secondary Adult Bully: This is someone who does not initiate the bullying, but joins in so that he or she does not actually become a victim down the road. Secondary bullies may feel bad about what they are doing, but are more concerned about protecting themselves.
Workplace bullying can make life quite miserable and difficult. Supervisors should be made aware of adult bullies, since they can disrupt productivity, create a hostile work environment (opening the company to the risk of a law suit) and reduce morale.

It is important to note, though, that there is little you can do about an adult bully, other than ignore and try to avoid, after reporting the abuse to a supervisor. This is because adult bullies are often in a set pattern. They are not interested in working things out and they are not interested in compromise. Rather, adult bullies are more interested in power and domination. They want to feel as though they are important and preferred, and they accomplish this by bringing others down. There is very little you can do to change an adult bully, beyond working within the confines of laws and company regulations that are set up. The good news is that, if you can document the bullying, there are legal and civil remedies for harassment, abuse and other forms of bullying. But you have to be able to document the case.

Adult bullies were often either bullies as children, or bullied as children. Understanding this about them may be able to help you cope with the behavior. But there is little you can do about it beyond doing your best to ignore the bully, report his or her behavior to the proper authorities, and document the instances of bullying so that you can take legal action down the road if necessary.

A Simple Story:

A teacher in New York was teaching her class about bullying and gave them the following exercise to perform. She had the children take a piece of paper and told them to crumple it up, stamp on it and really mess it up but do not rip it.  Then she had them unfold the paper, smooth it out and look at how scarred and dirty is was.

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She then told them to tell it (The Piece of Paper) they’re sorry.

Now even though they said they were sorry and tried to fix the paper, she pointed out all the scars they had left behind. And that those scars will never go away no matter how hard they tried to fix it.

That is what happens when people bully and hurt others, they may say they’re sorry but the scars are there forever. 

The looks on the faces of the children in the classroom told her the message hit home.

 

Namaste with Love

Mark

 

 

 

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