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Surrender to Receive all that you Need

Published 26/01/2016 by inspiringyourspirit

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Wow!…I have always had problems with this statement.. ‘Surrender to Receive all that you Need’. Like many, I have been travelling my own life’s journey and to date that’s about 55 years and 210 day’s to be precise in my case 🙂 and I still have trouble with the letting go, the surrender of the past!

The past is the past and it should firmly remain in the past. The future is the future and it should firmly remain in the future. The only thing we have for sure is ‘Now’, the present moment, all that we do, ‘EVER’ is in the ‘Present Moment’, so why do we waste so much time thinking of the past and worrying about the future?…Our previous life experiences, good or bad; play perfectly into the hands of our Ego Mind, adding fuel to the Ego’s fire and allowing it to hold us hostage with previous life experiences especially if the were bad, caused us trouble, held us back etc. And the uncertainty of the future, what it holds in store for us does exactly the same thing, allowing our Ego Mind to take yet another opportunity to cause us grief, ‘Your not worthy of that, you will fail at that, “Remember when you did that before and it caused you this problem? ‘so you had better not do that again’…and on and on these old thought patterns control us. Memories are good and they allow us to equip ourselves as we move forward but we do our lives a major injustice when we allow our Ego Minds to control who we are and from reaching our full potential.

Living our life in the ‘Now’ is perfect when we read about it in books, listen to self-help recordings, attend seminars, training programs and self-help groups but the reality is like the never ending diet, we try, then try, then try and try again but we just can’t stop that Ego Mind, that little demon on our shoulder from saying, “Watch out for that”, ‘Don’t do that”, ‘Remeber what happened before”, “you will fail at that”, “you will never loose weight”, etc, etc, etc, So in my opinion, and for what it’s worth my advice is…….

“Stick With It”…..Meditate often, everyday if you can, break free from what holds you back, from what ties you down and ‘Just Be’, ‘Just Breathe’, connect with your inner self, meditate and go into your heart, love yourself for what you are ‘Now’ and for what you ‘Have in your life now’, be grateful for all that you are and ‘Just Be You’, let go of all the pressures that surround your day and ‘Let Go’ to ‘Receive something far greater than your own plan allowed’ and you will find ‘Peace and Love’ because my friends, they ‘lie within’.

Blessings to you all my friends, may your meditations take you to your heart and connect you to your soul 🙂

Namaste, with Love

Always

Mark

Decisions, decisions,…What am I to do?…Please Help!

Published 15/04/2014 by inspiringyourspirit

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Our lives are constantly littered with times when we have to make important decisions, some are easy to make and some cause us heartache and pain, some we just never make as we procrastinate over the thought process far too much.

I know as I am no different to anyone else, I too sometimes find it very hard to make a decision because I often over complicate the process by having too may reasons why or why not to do something!

We all know that to be in a job or career you love is one of the best things you can do for your life, for your happiness and your wellbeing, we all know that to have a healthy well balanced life with exercise, good balanced healthy food and time out in nature is also good for our lives but when it comes down to it our decisions to do the right thing for us and our life is muddled and confused by the worry and concerns about finance, income, paying our way and this worry then clouds our other decisions about our daily and future happiness!

Many people have made these often very difficult decisions, they have walked away from their boring corporate job, they moved to the coast or to the countryside, started their own small business, set-up an art studio, established a yoga center or doing good work for a NGO or charitable trust, caring for nature or whatever it is that they do…they made the change and the majority of these people never look back; they are as the saying goes ‘In their Element’, living their dream, enjoying life to the full, makings ends meat with a smile on their face and a spring in their step!!!

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So why is it that the majority of us never make this change? We never risk it and move on to what our heart is telling us to do!…Why, oh Why!

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Letting go of the past to gain access to the now and to move forward into a new life, this is a dream for the majority but a reality for the few. I myself have lived a life of success, I have had all the worldly goods I could possibly need, I have had the opportunity to travel and see the world, I have a beautiful family and a good career but am I happy? Am I living the life I’m destined to live, am I at peace with myself and doing what my heart is telling me to do? These are often questions we raise, ‘How will I let go’? ‘How can I give up this job’?, ‘How can I make ends meet’? ‘What about the children’?, ‘What about the future’?

The answer from many that have made the decision and are now living their dreams are often simple…’Just let go’!… ‘Be positive’, ‘Be grateful’, ‘Be happy’ and karma will do the rest, Your inner-self will not let you down! ‘Listen to your heart’! ‘Go with the flow’, ‘It will all be ok! You will find a way, you will live your dream and you will be happy!

Easier said than done?

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I would like to finish this post on a positive note because I’m aware that the sentences above are looking a little negative and of course I do truly believe that if you are positive then positive things come back to you and if you have passion for something then passion will help you make it happen, I also firmly believe in the laws of attraction, surrounding yourself with positive people and doing what you love in your live is the best therapy in the world; so, my dear friends, I would love to hear your thoughts, ‘What you have done to make the transitions in your life, how you believe happiness in your daily life can be found and what our friends out there can do to make these often very difficult decisions!

Namaste with Love
Always
Mark

Letting Go

Published 25/02/2013 by inspiringyourspirit

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Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future. The past is closed and limited, the future is open and free.
– Dr. Deepak Chopra

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Mark with Dr. Deepak Chopra in China.

In practical terms surrender means letting go. Although you don’t realize it, reality isn’t a given. Each of us inhabits a separate reality. Your mind maintains your personal version of reality by buttressing it with beliefs, expectations, and interpretations. Your mind blocks the free flow of the life force by saying, “This is how things must and should be.” Letting go releases you from the insistent grip, and when you let go, new forms of reality can enter.

You only have to take a ride on a roller coaster to see who gets more enjoyment out of the experience, those who clutch tight with white knuckles and clenched jaws or those who let go and allow themselves to be carried up and down without resistance.

Letting go is a process. You have to know when to apply it, what to let go of, and how to let go. Your mind is not going to show you any of these things; worst still, your ego is going to try to prevent you from making progress since it believes that you have to hold on in order to survive. Your only ally in letting go is spirit, which sees reality as a whole and therefore has no need to create partial realities based on limitation.

The whole path to love could be described as learning to let go, but letting go all at once isn’t possible. This is a path of many small steps. At any given moment the steps are basically the same: awareness begins to substitute for reactions. A reaction is automatic; it draws upon fixed beliefs and expectations, images of past pain and pleasure residing in memory, waiting to guide you in future situations.

Overcoming any reaction requires an act of awareness. Awareness doesn’t resist the imprint of memory. It goes into it and questions whether you need it now. In the face of a big dog, awareness tells you that you aren’t a small child anymore and that not all big dogs bite. Being aware of this you can ask if you need to hold on to fear. Whether you wind up petting the dog, ignoring it, or withdrawing is now a matter of choice. Reactions result in a closed set of options: awareness results in an open set of options.

When to let go

The critical times to let go are when you feel the strongest urge not to. We all hold on tightest when our fear, anger, pride, and distrust take over. Yet these forces have no spiritual validity. At those moments when you are afraid, angry, stubborn, or mistrustful, you are in the grip of unreality. Your ego is forcing you to react from the past, blinding you to new possibilities here and now.

Spirit has a good outcome for any situation, if you can open yourself to it.

What to let go of

If the right time to let go is when you don’t want to, the thing to let go of is the thing you feel you must hold on to. Fear. Anger, stubbornness, and distrust portray themselves as your rescuers. Actually those energies only make you more closed off. For example, panicky people tend to act that way because it is familiar; the same is true for angry and stubborn people. It is helpful to challenge familiar reactions by stating that you no longer believe in them. Here are a few examples:

Instead of saying “I have to have my way,” say to yourself, “I don’t know everything. I can accept an outcome I can’t see right now.” Instead of saying” I’m incredibly afraid,” say to yourself “fear isn’t me” Being more afraid doesn’t make it any more real.” (This technique is also applicable to feelings of overwhelming anger, distrust, rejection, anxiety, and so forth).

How to let go

Since letting go is a deeply personal choice you are going to have to be your own teacher. The process takes place on every level—physical, mental, emotional—where energy can be stuck or held and no two people have exactly the same issues. You may feel comfortable with a lot more physical release than I do; I may feel comfortable with a lot more emotional release than you do. It is important to find the balance between physical, mental, and emotional release that works for you.

I also suggest that you embrace the following ideas as appropriate:

-This is just an experience. I’m here on earth to have experiences. Nothing is wrong.
-My higher Self knows what is going on. This situation is for my benefit, even if I can’t see that now.
-My fears may come true, but the outcome will not destroy me. It may even be good. I’ll wait and see.
-I’m having a strong reaction now, but it isn’t the real me. It will pass.
-Whatever I am afraid of losing is meant to go. I will be better off when new energies come in. Whatever fear says, nothing can destroy me. 
-When people fall they don’t break, they bounce.
-Change is inevitable. Resisting change doesn’t work. 
-There is something here for me, if I have the awareness to find it. 
-The things I fear the most have already happened. I don’t want to hold on anymore. My purpose is to let go and welcome what is to come. 
-Life is on my side.
-I am loved, therefore I am safe.

I encourage you to embrace the coming season with a sense of openness, vitality, and a renewed sense of pure potentiality.

Namaste with Love
Mark

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