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Pain, Heart Ache, Tears…and More!

Published 10/10/2016 by inspiringyourspirit



My Dear Friends,

It has been many, many, long weeks since I have been able to place my fingers on this keyboard, to even attempt to write my blog…Words have left me, my heart has been broken and I have been struggling to get through my days and my nights.

The love of my life, my beautiful wife has decided to leave me 😦 There is no one else involved and we are still the best of friends, she has her own spiritual journey and her own pathway to follow, and her own needs to consider, and although this decision has truly broken my heart, I also respect her and I honour her decision.

Tears, endless buckets of tears have left my eyes, washed down my face and helped wash away my pain, my heart has missed so many beats, the slightest thought, song, tv program or word seems to set me off again, my beautiful dogs have given me endless cuddles, laid by my side while I have been crying and comforted me on endless occasions over these past few weeks, helping me move on with my life.

My own spirituality, my connection to my higher self, my pathway has been called into my thoughts each and every day, I quizzed myself endlessly, asking myself why!…and Where am I going with my life!

I read your comments, see and feel the love that you share, and I’m truly honoured by your sentiment and words of love, compassion, and support.

Where do I go from here?….Honestly, I don’t yet know!

Each day is a new day, a move towards the future, and whatever that holds for me.

One piece of positive news is after many years of procrastination, I actually went to Bhutan, hiked up some of the highest mountains, visited many amazing Buddhist Monasteries and Temples, met with Lamas and Rinpoche’s, meditated in the sacred sites and touched my heart with the Buddha in one of the most amazing experiences of my life….Future post…Maybe!…Watch this space.

Namaste with Love



Today We Pray For The Victims of Domestic Abuse

Published 31/08/2015 by inspiringyourspirit


My Dear Friends,

Domestic abuse, most often brushed under the carpet, locked behind the doors of the home, never spoken about, hidden behind shaking smiles in the hope that one day it will be ok and everything will go back to the time before the abuse started to happen!….

Unfortunately, in most cases, the abuse never stops, in most cases the abuse escalates to even higher levels, often the abuse moves over from one family member to others and sometimes even continues across generations, when the abused become the abuser !

Today, I pray for all the victims of abuse. Abuse can come in many forms, physical abuse, mental abuse, sexual abuse, confinement abuse etc.

No one, No one deserves to be abused!

No one should be treated without respect!

No one should have to live in fear!

No one……No one.

If you are in a situation of abuse, then its time to speak out…..

If you know someone who is abusing others then it’s time for you to speak out….

If you know someone who is being abused, then it’s time for you to speak out….

Let’s make this world a better place for all to live, without the fear, without the pain….living as we all should, living with love and happiness!

Namaste with Love



The Light of God Is Within, Love and Happiness is Within, Don’t Search for them Without!

Published 30/04/2015 by inspiringyourspirit


My Dear Friends,

I was talking with a dear friend yesterday, who is lost, and what I mean by lost is; she is lost on her way in life, she is troubled and holds anger in her heart right now, uncertainty as to her relationship with her husband, her child and her future, this uncertainty and loss of direction has stopped her in her tracks, she is now standing at the crossroads of life with a blank look in her eyes and a furrowed brow and she is finding it difficult to choose which fork in the road to take on her journey of life!

When we sat down and talked, I could see the pain in her eyes and feel that the energy in her body was at its lowest ebb, she spoke of ‘her life, her sorrow and her despair’ and her real uncertainty of where her life was taking her!

Negativity was in each word and each sentence, everything she spoke about and every thing in her life right now had a negative tone or emotion attached, her unhappiness was being controlled by her ego and the negativity was building a wall right around her, holding her captive and playing with her mind, her life and her future.

Deep down inside, in her subconscious mind, her ego mind, maybe in previous lives or old karma attached to her was a deeper problem, a problem that was holding her back, a problem or a past experience, / series of experiences that were now coming to the forefront of her mind and stopping her in her tracks. These past emotions were so strong that she was totally lost, contemplating her life, her relationship and her very future with her husband and her baby!

I listened and questioned and allowed her to speak out the words of unhappiness, her anger and feeling of loneliness, her fear of the future, her fear and hatred for all that is in her life right now, I asked her to think back and think of when these feelings commenced and how she felt when the feelings started, what brought on this change in her life. Questions were answered with negative responses and emotions were negative at every point, the fact that the love between her and her husband had started at the birth of their child, the gap widened, the distance between them as a loving couple became greater every day, the sleepless nights took their tool on both of them, the relationship changed as they now both felt trapped and no longer did they have a life together as a couple, she followed her tradition, she followed her parents, she listened to her friends, socialised only with her friends, she started to lead a separate life away from her husband and her baby was just a part of married life and what was expected of her. She worked late most nights, maybe as an excuse to be away from home as much as possible, she socialised with group friends as and when required but she passed off her baby as often as possible, socialising as was expected of her and playing mummy as was expected of her, but deep down inside was her screaming child, her inner-self, trying to break free of all that was controlling her, holding her down and keeping her captive…Her life, in her minds eye had been taken away, she was no longer that young girl, care free, with no worries or cares in the world, a fun and loving partner and wife and friend to many…In her eyes she no longer had a life, so she needed to break free, break free of these chains that held her down, the marriage that was holding her captive, the child that had taken her young life away, to walk away from her promising career, to walk away from it all, with no plan, no cares… she was ‘LOST’

We discussed love and happiness and she said she has no love, she needs love and she wants happiness in her life, and she needed to break free, to go out into the world and start anew, to look for love, for happiness and a new life….I told her, love and happiness is ‘within’ and unless you can love your self you cannot attract love from outside, happiness also starts from within. Positivity leads to positivity and it attracts positivity, her life right now is full of negativity, she expels negativity and anger and hatred in her words, her actions and her aura, and we need to work on changing this so she sends out positivity, love and happiness, we need to build up that confidence, her child like previous self, one of which was loved by many, the happy smile she once had needs to come back to her face, the furrowed brow replaced with a radiance of love and light. We can do this together, we can make this change, we will make this change, love will shine once again in your heart, you will be happy, you will have a smile, you will reclaim your life, your relationship with your husband will repair and you will love your baby together as a family once more….you will…. you will 🙂

This my dear friends is the start of my friends new journey of life, she has chosen to take the road of family life once again, I will help and guide her along the way and she is supported by the light of God, the ascended masters, healers, and angelic beings at each and every step along the way, all she needs to do is accept that she is love , love is within her, happiness is within her and the support of her husband and child is ‘Always’ with her.

Namaste with Love



Don’t Loose Sight Of Reality By Confusing it With What You Think Is Real In Social Media

Published 25/07/2014 by inspiringyourspirit


I came across this image today and felt the need to share it with you, I think it sums up my feeling that we as humanity are loosing sight of what is real due to the fog of social media and technology that run our lives today. We are sadly loosing the skills of face to face communication and our lives are measured by the social media rankings that we are given when we take part in online happiness, relationship and personality type tests that pigeon hole us into certain groups, no longer are we wise individuals with our own thoughts and aspirations, but slowly but surely becoming lemmings to the corporate powers that be!

Please remember your loved ones this weekend, give them a hug, tell them you love them and spend some quality time together out amongst nature without your phone or tablet device.

Namaste with Love

If My Heart Had Windows

Published 05/05/2014 by inspiringyourspirit


If my heart had windows you’d see a heart full of love just for you
A tear may appear when I hold you near but that’s for the sweet things you do
If my heart had windows you’d see a heart full of love just for you
By your side I’ll stay till we’re old and gray remembering the young moments we knew
If my heart had windows you’d see a heart full of love just for you
A thief couldn’t steal the joy that I feel heaven for me has come true
If my heart had windows you’d see a heart full of love just for you
If my heart had windows you’d see you would remain forever and ‘Always’ in my heart
If my heart had windows you’d see a heart full of love just for you

If my heart had windows the view would be resplendent, fields of flowers all colours of the rainbow, rivers flowing through the mountainside and into the sea, birds flying by on wings so high, fluffy white clouds sheltering the bright sunshine on clear blue sky, a grass as green as emeralds and trees all around providing shelter to all of God’s creations.

Does your heart have windows?

Namaste with Love


If Only!

Published 23/11/2013 by inspiringyourspirit



How many times do we say ‘If Only’?

If only you knew!

If only you knew how much I truly want to be with you!

If only they would help me!

If only they would be kind to me!

If only you knew how much you hurt me!

If only they loved me!

If only I was like them!

If only I had that chance!

If only I was talented like them!

If only I was slim!

If only I was beautiful!

If only I could…..!

If only you knew how much I think about you!

If only I had told you!

If only it were true!

The list could go on and on…….But wait….What if!

The Gift is Yours


Come on my friends, stop saying ‘If Only’ and get out there and take control of your life, do the things you want to do, say the things you want to say, open up your heart and ‘Start Living’ your life 🙂

Life is so much better when were saying ‘Thank You’ and ‘I’m So Happy’

Namaste with Love



Love is Love and it has No Boundaries

Published 19/10/2013 by inspiringyourspirit


Well, what can I say other than Congratulations to the happy couple.

I’m sure there are many people out there who for either personal or religious beliefs disagree with same sex relationships let alone marriage… but I say, who am I to judge! It is not my place to judge others and their choices in life, in fact I have enough challenges making choices for myself and my life without worrying about others and their choices. I watched this video and had tears, lots of tears, tears of Joy and Happiness as I watched the pure Joy and Happiness on the faces of the happy couple and their friends.

I wish them both all the luck in the world and all the happiness and joy that they deserve.

Love has no boundaries my friends and if we all realised that simple fact then I am sure we could start to make our world a happier place and a more peaceful place to live in.

Love to you all



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